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Go Offline to Get Connected

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As a new affiliate marketer and building out my website(s), it seems counter intuitive to be recommending to an audience that they should indeed go offline, but the benefits of going offline for a day or dare I say, even a week are exponentially beneficial for your mental regulation and in doing so, you may just find that your time and focus level up and propel you to invest your mental energy wisely.

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Can You Go Offline to Get Connected?

I would say that is an emphatic YES, but can you do it? Better yet, do you have any desire to do so?

Here is a GOODVIBELIFE win! Disconnect and live in the tangible world screen free and see what kind of energy you harness in your everyday life.

go offline to get connected

I work online and I am an active social media user and up until last year, I did not recognize how much to my detriment. When I consciously decided to take a respite from social media, the level of peace and mental clarity that I was rewarded with was apparent.

It came to my attention that I had developed an addictive habit and wasn’t really consciously aware that I had done so, not to mention the amount of time and energy I freed up to focus on my goals.

Social media provided a gateway for me to feel like I was occupied and connected when in reality I was achieving nothing fast and wasting my time by way of procrastination.  In hindsight it has been very indicative of the issues I had to resolve in terms of my own esteem and self responsibility.

being offline reduces reactivity

I am in my late 30s and I still feel like I am 20 years old, but that is not actually what is going on, and the more years I spend on this planet, the more I realize how valuable my time really is and propels me to delineate more clearly how to make the most effective use of it.

After a good deal of self investment, I now feel fulfilled in my entirety and I do not seek approval or validation from those outside of myself so gaining “likes” or seeking attention online has never really been my jam, but I am an individual who has a neural wiring that lends itself to addictive behaviours. I have quit smoking, drinking and harsh street drugs and have never returned to them. When I learned why those habits were present in my life, I was able to better delineate how to eliminate them from my existence.

change may not be fast

I didn’t realize that the addiction to social media would be an entity that would affect me, but the truth is, that I succumbed to the suck in that is inherent in the intention behind social media and the results of these indulgences have never proved to benefit me more than they have hindered me.

With clarity and awareness, I am now empowered to direct my focus and attention on pursuits that prove empowering.

Are You Using the Internet with Conscious Awareness?

In this day and age it seems as though everyone has a screen in their face. It is incredibly refreshing to take a day or even a week to completely disconnect from the online world.

If I were to ask you to do so, do you think that is something that can be dialled in?

My guess is that it is totally possible but I wonder how much resistance one would feel in doing so?

disconnect and live in the tangible world

How comfortable have you become with the attachment to your screen?

It would be an interesting endeavour to recognize the behaviour or thoughts that arise in an individual when you suggest that they go without their phone or internet connection for a week. It is such a powerful entity in today’s world and generates a good momentum of energy in terms of social connections and business practices and opportunities.

The electromagnetic frequencies that emanate from technology are a palpable and it is completely understandable that our lives today are intertwined with the online world and why so many people are drawn into the abundance of information and activities are available.

online interest is vast

How much are you using the internet for your empowerment and how much is the internet gaining your unconscious attention where that time could be invested wisely elsewhere?

The aspect of the internet that sucked me in was when I realized I was spending more time scrolling posts than I was in gaining real information. I have had to consciously delineate my use of the internet and in the aftermath of this practice, I have recognized how much I had been standing in my own way in terms of the clarity and effectiveness of my own focus and spent energy.

How to keep a good vibe with you and your internet use – especially the behaviours you model for the little people you are bringing up in this world?
We here at the goodvibelife like to keep things simple, because as with anything in life, simplicity is the key to good design.

Be mindful. When you are connecting with your children, be present. Put away your phone and engage in the human interaction that we are so intrinsically built to have.

When you take a walk, take the walk fully. Take in the sounds, smells and sights that surround you. Be fully present in the act of walking rather than putting one foot in front of the other with your nose in your phone. If we are to thrive and maintain good levels of human decency and interaction, then we all need to be responsible for ourselves and our behaviours.

what you focus on expands

Are you using the internet with conscious awareness or are you controlled by it? I think the answer to this question, if you are not sure, then take a leave of absence from the online world and see how it impacts you.

So give it a go – can you go a full day offline? Or even a week? Is your time a currency?

You may just uncover that life’s luxuries are more apparent when you are fully aware and present for their unfolding in the natural world that surrounds you and your invested attention to it.

Comments (17)

  1. I love this post. I recently stopped my personal social media last November. I never realized how much time that I was spending. And how much I was distracted by checking posts hourly. I’m an active affiliate marketer, and I use social media as a method for connecting. But since I took a break from my personal accounts, it’s like a weight lifted.

    I’m a huge believer that you need to connect with yourself and your surrounding. Since I’m a technologist, I absolute appreciate tech. But it’s a tool, not my life. I feel more connected when I feel the water while I’m surfing than checking the latest wave on Instagram on a 3×5 screen for the most recent post by a stranger.

    I do believe that technology and social media has a place in the world.

    It’s important to be connected, but never as an addiction. Thanks for the great post, Bex!

  2. Using the internet with conscious awareness, is a big one for me. I too can get quite addictive to something very quickly, and since starting my online business this year, have noticed how much of my time is spent online. You are absolutely right, when you state that we should get offline for a while, to “delineate how to eliminate” as you put it (I like these words by the way). I know that being ‘offline’ is a luxury, however, I find that I start to feel guilty when being ‘offline’ for more than a day. Is that something that you experience also? and, is this a normal feeling to have in response to ‘taking a break’?

    • Hi Ilaisaane!

      I appreciate that you dig my verbiage and that you recognize in your own experience the impact going offline can yield.   I think guilt is an energy that proves unsuccessful for a good vibe and i don’t experience that sensation when I take a break but if you do, then I would ask you what you feel guilty about?  If it is the disconnection from the social aspect, then I would encourage you to reach out to people and go out with them in real life.  Otherwise sister friend, guilt is a low vibe.  If you experience it for whatever the reason, accept yourself fully, forgive yourself and let that vibe go.  Do what works for you to maintain a positive outlook on your behaviours and stay in a vibe of empowerment.

      I hope this tidbit helps, but if you want further discussion, please drop me a line at theartofbex@gmail.com and put in the subject line “Guilty Offline” and I will know it is you!

      Thank you for your comment and all the best with your balanced online behaviours!

      -Bex

  3. WOW!! What a very moving and interesting website. It truly does seem like we as a society that is addicted to being online or our cell phones. They truly are such a powerful entity in today’s world. I would been interested in seeing how many people would be willing to go without it for a week and actually do it for a week. Thanks for sharing this .

    • Hi Tina!

      Me too sister friend!  It would be interesting to see what the results would bring!

      Thank you for your comment!

      -Bex

  4. Thank you so much for your great article. I can really agree with your points and the one sentence from your post – “Offline is the new luxury”. Although Internet use can and is benefiting us greatly, we mostly use it too fill our minds with complete rubbish and awful information. Spending our time on Youtube or some other product of the Internet can make us loose a track of time and loose the quality and REAL life we had.

    Thank you so much.

    Strahinja

  5. Oh I loved your article,and I need to share share share it, especially with my kids, lol.  I feel the younger people really do have an addiction to their phones and their social media.  Me?  They yell at me because I turn off my phone for hours at a time, and they just can’t understand it.  Sometimes, though, I just remember the days when you could leave the house and not hear from anybody until you came home and checked your messages.  I love technology, don’t get me wrong, but there was something to be said for the way it was.  It was definitely peaceful.

    • Hi Babsie!

      I appreciate that my post had a positive impact on you sister friend and I think it is a huge win to limit the amount of screen time a developing brain has access to!

      Oldschool is the best school!

      Keep those good vibes rocking!

      -Bex

  6. Thanks for this post.

    I suffer from being connected all of the time.  Hell, I’m writing this on my iPad in the living room.

    You really don’t notice how disconnected you really are until you step away.  For me, it comes when I go on vacation every year.  My trips usually involve 2 weeks on a sailboat where I only have access when we’re in port.  I truly feel relaxed even though the disconnect is forced (since I don’t have coverage at sea).

    I know I am addicted but I do try to step away when I can.  I suppose being connected all day (as I work in IT) doesn’t help.

    I’m going to try to set one day a week where I don’t go online.  It will be tough but I think it will be beneficial in the long run.

    Thanks again

    • Hi Scott!  

      I appreciate your honesty in your self evaluation and I love the idea of being at sea in the open air and expansive ocean connecting with the beautiful world that surrounds you.

      One day a week sounds like a solid commitment and I wish you all the best vibes in harnessing a good balance.

      Thank you for your comment!

      -Bex

  7. HI Rebecca, could not agree more as this is something I can really resonate with.  I run a small business and an online busoness and spend a lot of time on my laptop and online. Up until recently however I was also constantly on social media and also played an online game building castles to go to war with alliances.  I was always on my phone and missing so much.

    I made the decision to turn it all off.  I left the game and restricted social media to my business requirements only.  Now we go riding bikes, kayaking, walking and swimming.  If i have 30 mins free I go and sit on the headland.  I am also much more productive for my work as I am not distracted by these other influences – and I have much more free time.

    thanks for a great article

    Paul

    • Hi Paul!

      What a wonderful comment to read!  A little self evaluation and a shift in behaviour can prove very empowering to ones life.  I am so pleased you are engaging in physical activities that connect you with your people and the natural world around you!  

      Absolutely awesome!

      Keep those good vibes flowing my friend and thank you for your vibrant comment!

      -Bex

  8. Thank goodness, I really don’t get on social media very often. Usually it is something related to my blog. My son is the same way thankfully. He has no use for it, and rarely do I see him on his phone either. Must be in our blood, or not in our blood LOL. I find I spend entirely too much time on my blog. I have just decided to make a list…daily….of the things I want and need to accomplish “offline” from working on my blog. This already makes me feel better. You got me thinking!

    • Good for you Leahrae!

      I think it is imperative that we all take a look at our online habits and strive for balance in what we are using it for. Sounds like you and your son engage in some quality living.

      Keep up the solid work with your blog and enjoy the good vibes you are evidently emanating!

      Thank you for your comments!

      =Bex

  9. Hi Rebecca,

    Great points. I have had similar feelings lately as well. Although I don’t really enjoy social media and being online, I do it for my business and also for entertainment. Over the recent months, I have found myself mindlessly wandering social media/the internet without even realizing that I was doing it. It just seems like it’s become the natural thing to do when you’re bored. I have tried really hard lately to cut down on my pointless internet usage. I try to only use it when it’s for a reason, such as working on my blog or related social media. It’s still difficult but I have reduced a lot of my usage. I took the last week almost completely off due to being on vacation however, and it felt so good! Thanks for the great article.

    • Hi Dan!

      I am pleased to hear that my post resonates with your experience. You seem to have a good amount of self awareness and I am stoked to hear that you had a solid vacation and a welcome respite from the online world!

      Thank you for your continued presence and your solid comments Dan!

      Cheers!

      Bex

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